The last week has been one of reflection for me. After acknowledging the fact that I had failed most of my summer goals, I realised that I need to reset and start afresh, and that’s exactly what I’ve been doing. Things have been a little quiet across all of my online platforms for this reason, but it’s safe to say that I’ve made some important changes, and I’m feeling refreshed and ready to go. So how did I get here? Well, I’m about to tell you. Whether it’s as serious as failing an exam or missing your sales target, or as simple as burning your banana bread or falling short of a gym goal, I think this might help you. Grab a cuppa, and let’s talk about 5 ways to reset after failure.
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FOCUS ON SOMETHING ELSE
Immediately after a failure, you’re not going to feel much like diving straight back into your projects. So don’t! Take some time to do things for the fun of it. Hang out with your friends, have some much needed R&R, or be creative for no reason at all. Put your goals to the back of your mind, and give your subconscious time to turn the cogs over them. Quite often, when we give ourselves a break from the things that are causing us stress, we come back to them refreshed, inspired and excited to get started again. Alternatively, we might decide that we aren’t interested in pursuing them at all anymore, and that’s fine, too! Taking some time for ourselves is often all we need to get back on track, and it’s something we don’t do enough in this world of busy busy busy!
LEARN FROM YOUR FAILURE
When you’re ready, it’s time to look back and learn from your failure. I wrote an entire post about what I learned from failing my summer goals, so I won’t go into too much detail. However, it’s only a failure if you don’t learn from it, so turn that defeat into a success by evaluating what went wrong. It’s not an easy task to remind yourself of all the ways you messed up, but discomfort is important here. Think of every possibility and then consider what you could do differently next time. Ignore any external circumstances, because you can’t do anything about them. This is all about you, so put the spotlight on yourself. All this being said, be fair. Consider whether you placed unrealistic demands upon yourself, because that’s as big a mistake as anything else.
OK. Enough beating yourself up! It’s time to get out of the gutter. You’ve established what you did wrong, so let’s get some positivity in here and look at what you did right. You can learn just as much from success as you can from failure, so think back to a time you’ve succeeded in something. Ask yourself a few questions to determine why things went well. For example: ‘what was the key to my success on that occasion? Could I apply that to my current situation? What did I do differently then?’ Once again, leave out the external factors, because they’re out of your control and therefore not worth your time. This step is all about self love and recognition, so own your past successes and take confidence from the fact that you’ve done it before and you can do it again!
After you’ve got yourself an education, it’s time to put those lessons into action! Starting afresh with a detailed plan is the key to achieving the long term goals you’ve set for yourself, because you’ll have no chance if you go into it blind! This isn’t the time to get into the nitty gritty – we’ll do that in the next step! This is the time for establishing what you want to achieve and by what date. Writing up a thorough plan for the next six months or longer will help you document your ambition and commit to your goals. When you’re lacking motivation or feeling uninspired, you can come back to your plan for guidance. However, remember that it doesn’t have to be set in stone. Six months is a long time away and a lot can happen in that time, so embrace the possibility of change.
MAKE SMART GOALS
It wouldn’t be a motivational post by Martha if it didn’t mention SMART goals! You must think I’m obsessed with the darn things, and honestly? I am. It is ridiculously easy to become overwhelmed by the enormity of your goals if you don’t break them down into achievable chunks, and becoming overwhelmed is a surefire path to not doing anything at all! Almost every time I fail to do something, it’s because I didn’t create a SMART goal, so I will keep pushing them until you start making them! Week by week, take your plan from the previous step and break it down into lots of SMART goals which you can add into your diary. This way, you’re achieving small goals on a daily basis. It’s good for your to-do list, it’s good for your mood, it’s good for your motivation levels. In fact, it’s good for pretty much everything!